Sexting in the car on my way to spend the weekend at my friend’s cabin
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So, I follow 544 blogs currently. The majority of them are run by women, and a large share of those are nsfw blogs run by either cam girls, dommes, models, or just women who are open about their sexuality. Many of these women use their blogs to explore their kinks and sexual interests and are open to sharing information about their personal desires.
I’ve been watching my dash since I received this question and not one single time have I seen an instance of what you just described. Since you’re leveling that claim, you carry the burden of proof and I’d challenge you to reblog my response with specific examples of what you’re saying. I even went to the the more explicit blogs I follow which are run by women and I saw no comments about wanting a guy’s dick or wanting to ride his face. In every instance I saw the original caption was intact or there were comments like <3 or babe or swoon. Further, in all the times people have said things about my photos that made me upset, not a single one was from a blog run by a woman. Not one. I’ve had 60,000 + notes on my posts in the past month alone and not a single woman has said something anything that I found to be bothersome. And if you follow me, you know my threshold for being bothered can be kind of low sometimes.
So, in addition to the fact that I have not observed the phenomenon you described above and I don’t believe it is as prevalent as you lead on, here are the ways it is different when a man makes those comments:
- When women do make comments on my photos, they often use terminology I’ve described above. “Babe, swoon, cute, beautiful, gorgeous”, etc. are all the common lexicon I experience with women. No woman has ever made a comment about my “pussy” that I’ve observed. By contrast, my friend Dolly received this comment yesterday: “She needs a cock in that little cunt!”. On the same photo, she was also told to “Practice for daddy, make yourself enjoy it”. The language is clearly of a more explicit, sexually charged nature.
- As exemplified by those comments, the things that are said by men most often detail SPECIFIC THINGS THOSE MEN WOULD LIKE TO DO TO THAT WOMAN without any regard for her preferences, interests, the context of the photo, or even the fact that the woman who posted the photo is the source of the material and thus will be reading the comments. The specificity of the fantasy being personally directed at you is often the most disconcerting parts.
- Men do not live in a world where they are just as likely to have those comments made to them in public. People tell me I have a nice ass on my photos, which is a fine thing to say. People also tell me I have a nice ass in the grocery store, at school, on the street, and when I’m at the playground with my 4-year-old niece. My body is considered to be open to public evaluation and commentary because I am a woman. You do not get catcalled. You do not get followed. You do not have any idea what it is like having strangers tell you what they think about your body and what they would like to do to it on an almost daily basis.
- Many of us who get up in arms about having those comments made to us have made it perfectly clear day after day what our boundaries are with what is acceptable to discuss with or about us. I post time and time again about what is acceptable for me. But those wishes are disregarded because we are “asking for it” or “it’s just the internet”.
You’ve made an argument of false equivalence. You are wrong.
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New York Spring 2013 - Peter Som (Backstage)
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